One of my very favorite ADHD plagues, is the phenomenon where I can organize other people really well…in fact I get paid to do that…and can’t organize myself worth half a shit.
I’m having one of THOSE days. BIG SIGH.
At the moment, I’m actually looking up some materials on how to deal with some organizational issues that we have at our other office. It’s sometimes challenging to get everyone in the office using the same system. And often, there’s the one person who just can’t seem to get on board. What to do, in a situation like that?
Well, you can fire them. That’s always an option when someone isn’t able to meet the requirements of the job. However, as a person with ADHD, I try to be sensitive to the fact that everyone’s brain is not exactly alike. Sometimes you have to think about the bottom line – is your greater concern the process, or the end result. I know that it depends on the situation, and in this particular situation that I’m trying to solve, the process really isn’t that important. We just need the result. I’ve come up with some helpful ways to address the issue we are having with that employee.
However, I should confess that my own desk looks like a bomb went off, things are all mixed together right now that shouldn’t be, and I am avoiding my own organizational tasks. I am my own problem child.
If I frame this in the context of ADHD, I come to these questions: Why are my own organizational tasks uninteresting to me, even while I enjoy organizing other people. Why do I place myself on my mental “unimportant” list and my coworkers on my “important” list? Why am I invisible to myself?
Is it because I have emotional baggage surrounding dealing with my own shit, but I have no emotional attachment to other people’s shit? Possible. Likely.
Is it because dealing with my own shit would require me to prioritize my own shit…and that’s stressful for a person with impaired executive functions? Possible.
Is it because I enjoy helping other people, even at the expense of my own sanity? Possible. Probable. Yeah.
Is it because creating a little chaos for myself makes me feel more alive? Yeah. Doubtless.
But now that I have what I need to get this other person organized…I’m still left to deal with myself.