ADHD

More extreme measures to ensure attendance…

This week, I had a board meeting to attend. Last week, our boss reminded us that we had this board meeting, at the weekly staff meeting. I wrote it down in my calendar.
It was a Monday, when she reminded us. And I remember her saying “we have a board meeting Wednesday, make sure that’s on your calendars”.  She also said “oh that’s right, the meeting is earlier this month because of…”…some scheduling issue. But the meeting is usually the third Weds of the month…the week we were having the meeting in was the second week of the month…my brain just collected the information. Because…that’s sometimes how my brain rolls. The information is there, just floating around in my head. I’m fully aware of both pieces of information. But they don’t connect…until they connect. This is why I write things down.
By the next day, Tuesday night of last week, I was still worrying about which Wednesday she’d been talking about. The one “tomorrow” or the one next week.
I decided that although I had the meeting on my calendar for “next week” I would show up for “tomorrow”.
So I did. I was a week early. I don’t know how, but my calendar was correct. There must have been more information given at the meeting that I was able to recall.
Better a week early than a week late, I say.
When I think about it, anyone with any kind of brain could have been confused…but because of the ADHD factor, I didn’t want to take chances. I didn’t know if my calendar was correct or if I had mixed up the information. I think that’s one of the keys to succeeding at anything with ADHD (really, it’s important for anyone…but a little extra important for the quirkily-brained): double checking and erring on the side of responsibility, even if it means you do something silly once in a while. Because at least you will do it silly early, not silly late.
It’s also important not to go around thinking you’re right all the time. I know plenty of people with ADHD who succeed in life. The ones that don’t are the ones that put things off until later, think they’re right more of the time than they should (even though experience should tell them otherwise), don’t trust outside sources, and don’t double-check things. Yes, you can go overboard in compensating…only practice will help you find the balance. Practice with a good therapist as a guide is even better…
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