…today I helped my 8-year old stepdaughter learn to use a pottery wheel.
I actually have no idea how to use one. I DID read the directions. And demonstrated to her that I knew this step was IMPORTANT.
Predictably, the first attempt really pissed her off…haha. This was ADHD impatience at its finest…there was whining, rage, abuse of anyone within range and not listening to directions, all wrapped up in one squishy looking lump.
Her father told her if she continued to behave that way, the pottery wheel would make a swift exit. I kept reminding her that this was all an experiment, perfection was not the goal, and that my potter friends have been doing this for YEARS to do what they do.
It’s not easy being a little girl with ADHD who is also a perfectionist with completely unachievable expectations.
She turned the impatience knob down a bit for attempt number two…and a miraculous thing occurred. She started to see what her hands could do…and was better able to coordinate the pedal pushing and finger movements. And on attempt #3…WELL NOW. Suddenly she was making pretty, smooth sides and lovely flattened edges.
And toward the end she was VERY focused. Like a LASER. SCARY focused! I sort of loved the look on her face because I can totally relate to that brand of hyperfocus.
FUN TIIIMES! Channel the hyperfocus for the forces of good! It’s exciting to watch her begin to learn ADHD navigation at such a young age…